Kids don't want to go to Kindergarten!!! Why??!!It's painful when a child says that he doesn't want to go to the Kindergarten. As a parent, I want my kids to go to kindergarten with a smile. However, when my child was desperately clinging to me and crying, I felt like my chest was tightened. My kids should have been doing well until now, but suddenly they hated it, and violently resisted after the holidays. It's hard to deal with a child. I think there are many parents' worries due to refusal to attend the kindergarten, such as "Is it okay to take my kid forcibly even though he is saying that he doesn't want to go?" "Is it spoiling them by allowing it?" Therefore, this time, we will introduce the causes and countermeasures for children's refusal to attend the kindergarten.Naturally there is a reason for refusal to attend the kindergarten! Watch over depending on the timeThe first thing to know is that there are times when it is natural to refuse to attend kindergarten. Simply put, it's a time when your kids are new to the Kindergarten itself, or when they are young in the first place. In this case, don't worry too much. Let's take a look.A few days to a few weeks after enteringImmediately after entering kindergarten, your child often cries or dislikes it. It's natural because they spend time away from their parents. The teacher is accustomed to this situation, so don't worry too much and send them out with a smile. Of course, there are children who can go without crying, but there is no need to compare because each person is different.After the holidaysKids often refuse to attend kindergarten during summer vacation and after long vacations. Some children cry every Monday. Please take it as a plus that they enjoyed spending time at home, and send them out with a smile as usual.Causes of children refusing to attend kindergarten First, let's find out why your child refuses to attend kindergarten. There is a childish reason to say "I don't want to go". If there are a lot of refusals to attend  other than the time I mentioned earlier, there may be some reason. This time, the reasons for refusing to attend school are roughly divided into three. Of course, there are times when they just don't want to go, and there are times when various reasons are intertwined. Please refer to it as an opportunity to know the feelings of your child.If a child is unwellThe first thing to worry about is your child's physical condition. In particular, children under the age of 3 who have few words may complain of poor physical condition by crying or squirming. Think of "sleepy" as being unwell. Check your kid's physical condition by measuring the fever and observing your child's condition.I miss my dad and momMany children refuse to attend kindergarten because they miss their favorite dad and mom. If you go to pick up and come back saying "It was fun!", And if it's okay to go, you can think of it here. In other words, it's not "I don't want to go to Kindergarten" but "I don't want to leave my mom and dad". Refusal to attend a school tends to ask the school or school for a reason, but it is often possible to deal with it at home.I don't know how to interact with my friendsSome children refuse to attend kindergarten because they are worried about how to interact with their friends. Young children aged 1 to 2 often play individually rather than in groups, but when they reach the age of 3, they have more opportunities to play with their friends. From the perspective of parents, I want them to play with their friends, but there are many children who do not have good relationships. For example, you can't play well with your friends, you can't join a group of friends, you have a fight, you have friends who aren't good at it, and so on.In any case, the important thing is to "accept the feelings of the child."There are various reasons, but the child's feelings of "not wanting to go" are the same. What you can do at home is to face your child. Of course, no matter how much you try, you may continue to be refused attendance. Even so, the fact that moms and dads face each other should support the hearts of children.Empathize with the child and accept the sweetnessWhen your child tells you that they don't want to go to Kindergarten, ask why and accept their feelings and sympathize. Suddenly, even if you say "go", the child will only repel. And the reason for refusing to attend the park may be trivial for adults, but it is a serious problem for them. First of all, it is important to listen to your child's story, accept their feelings, and sympathize with them. After empathizing and accepting the sweetness, suggest what you can do to overcome their weaknesses and dislikes. By doing this, the complicated mind of the child will be solved. If the reason for refusing to attend the kindergarten is that you don't want to leave your dad or mom, having fun with the teacher or friends at Kindergarten will quickly pass and they'll be able to meet your mom and dad again soon. You can relieve your child's anxiety by giving them the peace of mind that they will always meet even if they are away.Smile when sending outIt's hard to bring a crying child. Parents will be sad and anxious. It can be frustrating. At such times, please keep a smile on your face. Then your kid may be able to recognize that "Kindergarten is a safe place". When I entrusted it to the teacher, I immediately broke up with a smile saying "Welcome!" This makes it easier for children to switch their feelings.Tell your parents that you will be happy if you go to the park energeticallyWhen your child refuses to attend kindergarten, let them know that "Mom and dad would be happy if you could go to school and play well." Even if you tell a child who refuses to go to kindergarten about the reasons for going to Kindergarten, it is not easy to understand. Whatever the reason, children don't want to go to the garden. Rather than explaining and asking for understanding, he said that he would be happy if his child would go to Kindergarten, such as "I'm glad if you go to the kindergarten well" and "Tell me if you have fun in the kindergarten". It will resonate with children. Children want to please their parents. When you find out that your parents are happy when you go to the park well, the motivation switch will be turned on.The important thing is to spend more time with your childMany children refuse to attend kindergarten, and many parents are worried about it. As a parent, I'd be happy if my child would come to the kindergarten with a smile, but it's important to think about what kind of time you spend with your child when you're not at Kindergarten. The child's heart will be satisfied just by picking up the child with a smile and giving them time to interact with each other after returning home.