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Babies' separation anxiety; Causes and Fixes

I think every mom and dad has experienced their children crying, searching around, and being chased when they disappear. Some people may be worried about this and think, "How long will it last...???". This time, I will explain the general reasons for this symptom, when and how to deal with it.What is a baby's separation anxiety?Its is the act of your children crying or searching around when there are no more people in front of them, such as moms and dads, especially when moms are gone. Many moms feel that they can't do their housework well because their babies will cry even while they are in the toilet or doing laundry. When this begins, the baby will try to follow you wherever you go, so keep an eye on them.Why babies do this?It usually begins with the development of attachment and trust in parents who have been in contact with each other for a long time, such as moms and dads, and the ability to recognize them as special beings. Therefore, if you get out of sight even a little, your child will feel a great deal of anxiety and start crying or searching around. It is also a sign of growth that has made it possible to distinguish between parents and others.When does it start and how long does it last?It generally starts when kids develop their memory and cognition, and are free to move around with crawling and walking with support. There are individual differences in the age of the moon, and it seems that early children may start around 6 months after birth, but it seems that they usually start in earnest around 9 to 11 months. When they can understand that even if they can't see their parents from their own field of vision, they're not gone, and they know that you'll definitely be back after a while, your kids' anxiety will gradually disappear. For this reason, separation anxiety generally tends to settle around the age of 1-2.How to deal with babies' separation anxietyHow do you deal with this Which method is best for you depends on your baby, but to make it as easy as possible, please refer to the solutions presented here.Call out when you leaveWhen parents suddenly disappear, babies also feel anxious. Even if it's a short time, such as in the bathroom, when you leave your side, say something like "I'll be back soon, so please wait" and then leave. Even if you don't understand the language, it is important to make the baby understand it by repeating it over and over again.Do not make a dangerous placeWhen you can do hi-hi, your baby may move alone in the kitchen or stairs to find mom and dad. If you take your eyes off your baby, look around for dangerous objects or places. It is also effective to enclose it with a baby gate so that the baby does not go to a dangerous place.Use a baby sling or baby carrierIf you really have to do household chores, consider using a piggyback strap or a hug strap. However, it will put more strain on your mom and dad's body than you think, so be sure to devise the time and frequency of use.Minimize houseworkThis period is not long-lasting. It's an important time for moms and dads to develop attachments and trust, so cooperate with your family as much as possible to share the housework and stay with your baby as much as possible.Let's enjoy the "separation anxiety" time that can only be experienced nowDon't blame yourself for being frustrated by the children following you. Don't weigh yourself down because you can't do the housework perfectly. Babies love the smiles of their parents. Babies' separation anxiety is something you can only experience now, to look at the long term, change your mind about it for a short period of time, and treat it with plenty of time to enjoy playing together.