Being aware of your Children's emotional health

The impact of "educational abuse" and what parents should be aware ofIn some countries, the term “educational abuse” is used. Abuse does not mean hitting or kicking a child. In this issue, we will introduce what education abuse is, the impact of education abuse on children, and what parents should be aware of to avoid education abuse.What is educational abuse?Educational abuse is psychological abuse that imposes challenges on children because of their education. Educational abuse is not just the act of forcing a child to study excessively. Parental coercion of lessons, even though the child does not want it, is also an educational abuse. So what kind of parental behavior is educational abuse? Here are some examples of educational abuse.

• Manage your child's study schedule in detail
• Do not allow to play with friends
• Have students study (practice lessons) until late at night
• Add violence because of poor grades
• Intimidate children by hitting desks and walls, yelling, etc.
• Say something that hurt your child's self-esteem

Impact of educational abuse on childrenWhat impact does educational abuse have on children?Impact on physical developmentAn example of educational abuse is parents who do not feed enough as a punishment for children who do not achieve the results they expect. Such abuse can be called neglect. Children who are not well-fed, of course, cannot get the nutrition they need to grow, which can lead to stunting. In addition, it is said that if such a condition continues, it may become difficult to eat properly even after a sufficient diet is given.Impact on intellectual developmentChildren who have been abused by their parents become scared of being against their parents' thoughts due to their psychological effects, and as a result, they are also scared of having curiosity. there is. Because curiosity is essential to intellectual development, such children may be delayed in intellectual development compared to other non-abused children. Excessive parental education provided to promote the intellectual development of the child, on the contrary, hinders the intellectual development of the child.Psychological effectsChildren who have been abused have trauma in their hearts. As a result, I lose confidence in myself, become less conscious of building good relationships with others, become withdrawn, and hurt myself from self-denial. On the contrary, it may become violent and hurt others.Things to watch out for to avoid educational abuseThink things from a child's point of viewFirst, think from a child's point of view. Imagine if you live the same life as your child and live the same things every day. Every day I go to school, go to cram schools and lessons when I come back, and then when I'm tired and take a break, I'm told to do my homework soon! Mom wouldn't want to come back from her job, work according to a schedule set by others, and be told that her dinner is terrible for her food. It's the same.Interact with the childThe other is to ask your child. It's a dialog, not a discussion. Parents have a stronger parent-child relationship, so if you have a discussion, you will win. Instead, recognize that you are in a strong position as a parent and try to talk. You may be able to have a proper dialogue after the upper grades of elementary school, but if there are many things in the conversation that you think you are silent or not trying to talk, you will find that your child is strange.Look back on your words and actionsConsider the possibility that when your child complains or gives you an opinion, you may be right and you may be wrong. At the very least, the emotions and desires of the child are in the words and opinions, so think back and think about whether or not you have accepted the emotions and desires of the child as a parent. What I thought was a child's problem may be a parent's problem. When you look back, you may notice something or you may be confused about your educational policy. Take care of it and once again wonder what is really good for your child.Educational abuse can deeply hurt a child's mind. A child's life is up to the child himself. Even if the child fails on the "decided path", it is important for parents to keep an eye on them so that they can stand up, find goals and work hard.