How do you deal with children who don't listen to people?There are many adults who can't listen to others, but here I would like to talk about children who can't. Unfortunately, the number of children who cannot listen is increasing, and it is also regarded as a problem in the education industry. For moms who are frustrated by children who don't listen to people or scold them many times to listen, we will introduce the reasons and causes of children not listening properly and how to treat such children.Characteristics of children who do not listen to peopleWhat are the characteristics of a child who does not listen or cannot listen to others? Also, what is the cause of not listening? Let's see what you can think of. Basically, children usually can't listen to people. They are interested in various things and grow up while experiencing good and bad things. For that reason, adults don't listen to what they want them to hear, and even if they say no, they do things repeatedly. Don't assume that "my child is a bad child" just because they don't listen.Why children don't listenThere are four main reasons why a child does not listen to his or her parents.1. Immediately loses concentration and shifts interest in surroundingsChildren's concentration doesn't last that long. Children aren't really good at listening to people because they quickly shift their interests to others. Sometimes when mom is talking, but the child is interested in something else or thinking about something completely different.2. I'm too focused and I can't hear anything elseWhen watching TV or playing intensively, the voices of others do not reach the child at all. It's good to be focused, but I think moms are often frustrated by children who don't answer when they call them many times when they're doing something and don't listen at all.3. There are various reasons why you don't want to do what you're toldSome children listen to and understand adults, but don't want to do what they are told to do. The reason for not listening obediently depends on the psychology and age of the child at that time. Sometimes there are hidden reasons such as being stubborn, wanting attention, or having something to say.4. Moms and adults are noisy, so it's an environment where you don't want to hear.If moms and certain adults keep telling you to "do this" and "do this", your child will stop listening. Also, if you don't hear what you want to say, the other person's words will not come in.How to deal with children who do not listen to peopleNext, let's see what moms and adults around them can do to make them children who can listen to people. What do you need to be aware of in your daily life to grow up to be a child who can listen?When parents listen to their children's stories, they will listen to them as well.Children also have a lot to say and talk about. They always want to tell their mom and teacher what they feel and what happened. Even if your child ignore that feeling and speak only what their parents want to say, your child will not be able to digest what you want to say and the other person's story will not come in. First of all, parents must listen to what their children want to say and satisfy their children's desires to speak. Even for us adults, this kind of phenomenon occurs on a daily basis.Say only important things in an easy-to-understand manner so that children can understandMoms have endless things to say to their children. For example, when you want to get rid of it, not only the word "Please get rid of it", but also the words you want to say one after another, why you need to get rid of it. If you keep doing this, your child will be able to listen to important words. For children, mom's words are not deeply understandable. They don't feel like listening to a story that they don't understand, even if it seems to last forever. This is the same for us adults.When talking to children, ask questionsWhether or not the child listens to the other person's story has a great influence on the other person's communication ability. For example, rather than being unilaterally told what you want to say, when you talk while asking a question, you become more aware that you have to listen.Compliment your childIt's a great pleasure for children to be complimented. To be happy, I want you to say more = you will want to hear. It's important to praise your child so that they want to hear it. Even when scolding, if you praise the good points in the end, you will be able to listen to the story.Children who do not listen to people change with a little ingenuityIf you're frustrated or anxious about a child who doesn't listen to you, let your mom devise a little way of speaking, using the methods I've just introduced. By doing so, the child will gradually change. When I'm in contact with a child, I tend to have a natural command tone and often talk in a prescriptive manner. This is also the reason why you become a child who does not listen, so please review it and try to make your child a child who can listen honestly. It's important to understand your child's personality and do it the way that suits your child.