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WATCHING OUT FOR BAD WORDS FROM A CHILD

Watch out for compliments to a child whose "time to say unpleasant" is calm.

Does everyone have a "time to say unpleasant"?

When a child is about two years old, he or she enters a “time to say unpleasant” to assert himself about anything. However, it is not the case that every child will have a difficult "time to say unpleasant".I say "I don't like it!", But when mom explains why, some children accept it easily. Such a child may be praised by the people around him as "a good child to hear!" Or "great". However, there is a pitfall there!Parents are also overwhelmed by the evaluations of those around them, and unknowingly evaluate their children as "good because they can do it, not because they can't do it." And children who receive such an evaluation will eventually try only "what they can do".Please stop complimenting the results and give a voice to evaluate the process of your efforts. For example, when people around me praise me, "You're a good child!", You can say "Thank you for understanding my mom's feelings" or "I'm doing my best!" Instead of saying "Great!" Try changing it to a hanging. By doing so, you will grow up to be a child who does not set his own limits and spares no effort.