How to Develop a Child's "Ability to Think for Himself"

To put it simply, to think for yourself is to act at your own discretion. In other words, instead of just pursuing the correct answer, you can ask yourself, think carefully, and give your opinion. This seems easy, but isn't it something you can't do right away?Sure, parents say, "Think better!", But you may not be telling your child what to think and how to think, and what is best to think about. If you want to raise a child who has the ability to think for himself......　 ① Do not spoil your child too much      Small children are all living parent is alive depends on. It can be said that the situation of being dependent on the parents reassures the child's heart and is indulging in the parents. Children How can grow in this "peace of mind" of the "spoiled", to grow too spoiled and on its own is nothing such can become adults have possibilities Arima be.Why parents is whether too much pamper children . This is because I want to protect my children, I don't want to be disliked by my children, and I want to be a good parent myself. Its Uiu I think is located in, but is of course, is Yareru to children and myself with an arrow until early in et al then , after the watch while the parent is support . As it is a result, considered on their own , et al. Is the person the child the growth is going by. ② Refute the negative thinking of the child      It's no mistake to reassure your child that you don't have to score a red dot on a math test or join a sports selection team. It is important for children to learn how to deal with self-doubt on their own. If your child is too obsessed with negative thoughts, teach them to make the "opposite claim." "I am in the class bad point number If you're considering a child that it is", " bad point number so as not to to is what I do Let's hear that?". Asking will help you to develop a more realistic and balanced outlook . ③ Don't ask your child for perfection      Stress to your children the reservoir is in search of perfection enough to Me is useless . Most parents make the mistake of raising their children to perfection. Since children are also human beings, each one is different. Head is good child is as 　if it is likely to be perfect too seek perfection in dull children it is prone to stress as the reverse. High expectations are good for children, but too high a hurdle backfires. Too multiplied by the tremendous expectations in sports and study, children who do not think that he can be successful, want to stop to challenge it intends will . ④ Get close to the emotions of the child      Feelings of anger are something that everyone has, regardless of age. However, some accumulation is required to be able to control that emotion. For example, suppose a child says, "I wanted to play soccer with my friends, but I was so angry when I was told,'You're not good at it!', So I kicked it!" So parents tend to emotionally say, "Why did you kick it? It's not bad." "Kick" act and is the scold be divided into friends of course Lima Please try to listen to the feelings that led to Kan First of all children of anger. This child was lonely because he couldn't join us, and he was disappointed when he was told that he was not good at it. That's why the words I hang are "I was disappointed that I couldn't get them to join me. I was lonely." Then the child will notice that he has feelings other than anger.