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Sympathize with children who are afraid of failure and Let's think about measures Together![YOU are the best MOM] vol.30

For children who are afraid of failure, sympathize with that feeling and let's think about measures together with parents

Children don't challenge because they're afraid to fail ... Isn't that the case? From infancy to early childhood, many children avoid things they don't like or dislike by saying, "Mom does it because I can't do it well" and "I don't want to do it because I'm not good at this competition." is. However, it is very important to get used to failure from an early age, because failure always occurs in life. Here's how to deal with children who are afraid of failure.

It's very natural for people to be afraid of failure.

It is very natural for children to develop a fear of failure, even from the developmental stage. At the age of one or two, I want to go beyond my ability, but after the age of three, I gradually become able to predict that "it may fail" and "it may not work". , I sometimes hesitate to take on the challenge. Also, at the age of four or five, you will be able to compare yourself with friends such as preschool, and you will become more competitive. However, because I don't understand my abilities, I get angry and cry if I can't do it well, and I'm afraid of failure when I find out that things don't go as planned.

Let's get close to the child's feelings and think about countermeasures together

Fearing failure is not a bad thing. That's the proof that you're doing your best. Therefore, it is important to sympathize with the child's feelings of "I don't like it, I don't want to do it!" It's hard to accept for a child who doesn't want to fail and doesn't like to lose, but try to stay close to your feelings by repeating "I don't want to fail". After that, please think together about how to be able to do it, "Then, how can you do it well?" By repeating this, you will be able to think and challenge yourself little by little.