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If the Mom is Happy, So is the Child! Three Keys to Becoming A Happy Mom

A mom's day begins with housework and childcare, does her work and errands, and finishes the day busy with her housework and childcare. Maybe you get tired and get frustrated by some little things and think "this is the limit....."? It may be because you are busy every day and you are running out of space. Sometimes you feel like you're a bad mother because you're not confident in what you're doing or you're not enjoying it.Many moms always give priority to their children and their families and do their best to make everyone feel comfortable. But when moms are tired and not smiling or angry, it will affect their children. Kids love their mommy's smile. For that reason, it is very important to create "mom's time" where moms can do whatever they want. For moms who want to live their lives with a brighter and more calm feeling, here are some ways to live happily with a sense of comfort.1. Do not seek perfectionIf you try to do all the housework and childcare perfectly, you will run out of time no matter how much time you have. A beautiful house and delicious homemade rice are nice, but what the family wants most is mom's smile. It doesn't make sense for mom to be too tired. You may decide in advance, the time to do household chores every day and make a day when you do it as much as she can during that time. It is also important to cut corners so that the burden on you does not become too great, such as eating out or eating out, or not worrying if the house is a little cluttered.2. Let's make mom's free timeFor moms who are busy with both housework and childcare, the morning is a great time to make your own time. For example, if you finish the night chores early, go to bed with your child, and wake up an hour early, you can enjoy your free time until your family wakes up. It's also a good idea to read a book, watch your favorite videos, or enjoy crafting while your child is taking a nap.When Dad is off his work, use the time just for yourself. Watch your favorite movie, enjoy shopping to your heart's content, and have lunch at a good restaurant as a reward for yourself. If you can do what you like all day long, your stress will be blown away and you will feel like "Let's do our best again from tomorrow."3. I also need time to talk slowly with my partnerMost of the time, moms are in charge of household chores and child caretakers. If there is something that mom is in charge of that dad might be able to do, you should share. The point is to tell them what you want them to do specifically. Parenting while caring for each other has a positive effect on the child.Even if both husband and wife works, I think that the burden of raising children is often heavier for women. For example, when a child is ill, it is almost always the wife, not her husband, who is absent from work. Many people tend to become dissatisfied with the lack of cooperation from their partners. To get rid of dissatisfaction, it is important to communicate well. Make sure you have time to talk with your spouse while you are raising your child.When moms are constantly frustrated and anxious, it is transmitted to their children and their families, and the air in the whole home becomes heavy. In order for the whole family to be happy, it is important for moms to feel happy.