While the number of parents who are overprotective and over-interfering is increasing in some countries, there are also families who say, "Our family has a policy of growing and growing freely, so we try not to be annoyed." However, isn't it just a matter of letting go while saying that it is free to grow? It is one of the affections of parents to set basic discipline and rules and to scold their children not to do wrong things. Not doing that, to put it bluntly, is the same as what your child will do in the future.What is the state of being left alone?A state of being left alone is a state in which parents do not teach the manners, rules, norms, etc. necessary for a child to live in society. You need to make sure that you always have a parent behind your child. For example, allowing a child to do the following is just a matter of letting go.・ Acts that cause trouble to others・ Acts in which children do not value public things・ Dangerous acts such as ignoring traffic lights and jumping out onto the roadA child who grew up just left alone is a problemIn recent years, children who have been raised just by leaving them alone have become a problem. For example, the following cases are common problems such as when you go to a friend's house.・ Stay from morning till night・ Open the refrigerator in another person's house without permission・ Come home without a promise・ Take home things from someone else's house・ Ask for food and drinkIn a family where parents are disciplined and teach social rules, "going home without a promise" and "staying late" will say "stop because it's annoying." Or, it is taught that "you must not bring back or request anything from someone else's house." However, children who are raised in a state of being left alone do not have the opportunity to learn the importance of patience and how to properly interact with others. Parents are not careful when doing bad things, so children remain instinctively behave in ways that do not comply with social rules.Points to grow and grow correctly and freelyWhat is the point of raising a child well without being left alone, overprotective or over-interfering? Here, we will introduce three points for raising children correctly and freely.Don't forget to lay the groundwork for making decisionsIt is important to set rules and conventions in advance and to teach the good and bad of things on a daily basis so that the child can be free. In addition, it is important not to teach the rules and good and evil due to the convenience of parents, but to convey the important rules and good and evil in living a social life in the light of common sense. After telling the child the basic teachings to make decisions, the parents are silent, leaving the children to make various daily choices such as the clothes and menus they wear, what to play with, and whether to challenge. This is the point of child-rearing where children can grow and grow freely.Patience and mental strength to keep an eye on you are the key pointsThis "silently watching and supporting" is actually much more difficult than overprotective and over-interfering parenting, where parents talk and support everything. Even if you wear only one piece of clothing, it will take time if you let your child choose it. By leaving it to the child's judgment, the child will often fail and be traumatized. Still, parents must trust their children and keep an eye on what they think and how they behave. Parents' patience and mental strength are also one of the key points for successful parenting in which children can grow and grow freely.Do not interfere with the experience of growing up like a childAnother important thing is to let the child naturally experience the process of growing up like a child. By running, jumping and climbing freely, children acquire basic motor skills and basic strength, and through fights and troubles with friends, they experience crying, anger, patience and apology. Learn how to interact with. Let's experience the natural and natural events in our lives firmly without eliminating them because they hurt our children or interfering with them more than necessary. That way, the child can think, discover, and truly grow up freely and freely.How was it? Here, we have introduced the points for raising children that can grow and grow freely, but there are some that may or may not be suitable depending on the type of child. The important thing is to have a good affection for your child. In any way, parents want to help their children live their own way.