[YOU are the best MOM] vol.8

Empathizing with your child is a cheering symphony from a mom to children

Attentive moms, good teachers, good cooks, clumsy but hard-working moms. There are many types of good mama images for children, but one of the factors that children commonly feel as a good mama is that "mama sympathizes with her own thoughts." Moms who can be close to their children's thoughts are wonderful.There is one point to become a mom with high empathy. Let's ask about it when the child talks about something. Children feel that their favorite mom is trying to understand them, which is the daily vitality of their children.

Mom's empathy calms the child's mind.

When I look up "how to treat children" and "communication with children" on the Internet and in books, they all say "let's sympathize with children". This is because it is so important to be close to and empathize with the child's feelings in order to build a good parent-child relationship with the child. Imagine, for example, when a child says "buy a toy". Even if you scold the child who cries "Buy, buy ~", "No", "Don't cry", "You told me not to buy", "Be patient", "I won't come shopping with you anymore" The situation doesn't get much better, right? In such a case, even if you don't actually buy it, if you sympathize with the child's feelings, "○○ wants to buy this," the child's heart will calm down.

Let's answer the child's words with a question. Empathized joy gives birth to children's free expression

Ask your child "So?" Or "What do you think?" By doing so, you can gain a deeper understanding of what your child experienced and how he felt. Also, when my mom asks a lot of questions, I feel that she is interested in her story and sympathizes with her any thoughts. Mom's empathy feels like she recognizes herself and makes her child happy. Then, the child will be able to express himself honestly without decorating his thoughts.

Mom's sympathy is a child's battle song

Speaking of empathy, some people may wonder if they should accept the opinions of children who feel they do not understand. But you don't really have to understand everything. It helps the child to feel that the mom knows her thoughts. This is the most powerful support for children. Also, by asking questions, children will have more opportunities to convey their thoughts and will be able to improve their ability to convey their thoughts to the other person. It will be a great weapon in building relationships with friends.