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When scolding, be careful not to hurt your child's heart [YOU are the best MOM] vol.43

"I want to raise my child without scolding him as much as possible." Many moms think this way. Still, if you're a mom, there are many times when you have to scold. However, even in such a case, if possible, I would like to scold the child effectively without hurting the child. The scolding is to improve the bad behavior of the child. However, after scolding the child, the mom may feel depressed, or the child may be in a bad mood and cry. So how can you be scolded well?

The purpose of scolding is to improve behavior. Be careful not to hurt your child's heart

What is the purpose of scolding? It is to correct the behavior of the child. It's important to note that moms don't overheat and inadvertently deny their child's personality. If she says, "It's a bad child to do that!" Or "I don't need such a child anymore!", Only the child's heart will be hurt and it will not improve his behavior. .. Not only that, but it can also instill a false self-esteem in your child as "I'm a bad boy."

Focus on your child's behavior and scold them to tell them what to do in the future.

To scold your child effectively without hurting them, pay attention to their behavior and scold them. For example, if a child takes dangerous actions while walking on the road, he strongly scolds "It's dangerous to jump out on the road!", "Let's hold hands with mom", "When crossing the road, a car with mom Add the behavior you want your child to do, such as "Let's see if it's coming." If you add the feeling of mom, "If you hit a car and get seriously injured, mom will be very sad," it should resonate with the child. This repetition fosters the mind to judge good and bad, and from around the age of 5, you will be able to judge for yourself. Let's convey the feelings of mom repeatedly and raise the sensibleness of the child.