Rebellious age: What if your child tells you to leave it alone?

If you feel that your child is in a rebellious phase, what should parents be aware of when dealing with their child? This time, we will explain in detail the characteristics and how to treat children, with the theme of the rebellious period of elementary school students.Characteristics of the rebellious period of elementary school studentsRecently, it seems that more and more parents are suffering from the rebellion of elementary school children. It is said that the following characteristics can be seen in the rebellious period in elementary school students.

1. Talk in rough words
2. Don't talk to parents in a frustrated manner
3. I can't talk to my parents and I don't talk more often
4. Don't ask even if you're careful, ignore
5. I hate parents to help
6. Throw or break things

As a parent, I cannot hide my shock when the number of cheeky remarks such as "noisy", "leave me alone", and "I don't want to tell my mom (dad)" increases. However, there is a good reason for these words and actions. The rebellious period of elementary school students is the time when they get out of their dependence on their parents and grow up under the influence of their friends. As a result, they become rebellious, reluctant to be instructed or cared for by their parents, and unwilling to talk to their parents. It also tends to be irritated for no reason due to the instability of growth hormone balance. Some children don't know what to do and throw or break things to get rid of their depressed feelings.As children, they are doing the best in the society of elementary school. Children who are unconsciously confused because they are ranked in their studies and sports and feel the difference with their surroundings, and the way they interact with their friends also changes. That kind of upset leads to a rebellious attitude, such as returning to parents. It is said that the main cause of frustration at these times is "I can't organize my thoughts into words well". Children who are still immature in their ability to verbalize their emotional conflicts cannot keep up with the violently swaying changes in their feelings. The result is stress and frustration.How to treat a child in a rebellious periodSo what should parents be aware of when dealing with a child who has reached a rebellious period? If your kids take a rebellious attitude every day and get into a fight, you will only get frustrated with each other. On the contrary, depending on the response at this time, it may lead to escalation of rebellion. Let's see how to deal with the child.Listen uninterruptedIf you start to see rebellious attitudes, listen carefully to your child first. If you listen to the story and understand the reason, you can come up with a solution together. Children can also organize their feelings by expressing their feelings in words. If you don't listen, let your child do what he wants. Being able to do what you want can be calming. When you are spoken to, respond properly to your child rather than doing something. It is important to make people think that "(parents) will listen to you properly".Communicate unpleasant words properlyIt's a time when we often use rough words and expressions, but when we say strong words, it's important to be honest and tell us with the words, "People feel this way when they say so." Gently say something like "I'm sad if you say that."Compliment the good pointsWhen parents get frustrated with a child who is in a rebellious phase, they just want to complain. But instead of being sad or angry at your rebellious attitude, look for the good things about your child in your daily life and praise them for just one word. Don't worry if they take a rebellious attitude towards the word. Complimenting is not about flirting with children. The message is "I'm looking at the good points" and "I know you are doing your best". "The rice you eat together is delicious," is a word that conveys that you always care for your child, so it's a good idea to actively convey it.Face the child with a sense of comfortWhen a child suddenly enters a rebellious phase, some parents may find it uncomfortable and uncomfortable. However, the point of surviving the rebellious period is not to be upset, but to face with a generous feeling, such as "Oh, the rebellious period has finally arrived." Rebellion can escalate if you feel restless or refrain from doing so. If you can afford it, don't hold it alone, but talk to your partner or grandparents. Parents also need someone to support them, and it is often refreshing to hear them.Do not try to do what you want, but keep an eye on themOver-interference and pressure on a child whose independence is beginning to grow can be a source of repulsion. Respect and watch over your child's independence. Once you have the satisfaction of being recognized as a person, you may not have unnecessary backlash. At this time, it is important to avoid detailed cautions such as "bad behavior" and watch over.Tolerate without restraintWhen the rebellious period begins, you may think, "I will not listen to what I say and it will be difficult in adolescence, so I should be stricter from now on?", But this is counterproductive. is. Children at this time have a strong desire to acknowledge their thoughts, which is manifested in the form of violent language. Therefore, even if you make a different statement, show an attitude of accepting it. But accepting is not the same as being compliant. Let's leave it to the child's behavior by specifically saying, "I understand that I don't want to get rid of it, but I'll do what I can do myself."Let's face each other with a big heartWhen a child  is in a rebellious phase, we are constantly confused as a parent. By treating your child with a big heart, you will be able to better overcome the rebellious period that occurs before your child becomes an adult and help you grow.