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Self-control when scolding your children [YOU are the best MOM] vol.13

When you get emotionally angry with your child, apologize honestly and say "I love you"

I think there are many moms who feel that raising children is more likely to cause problems than they want. For example, when you find a child playing a prank and scold him, do you feel emotional and overstated even if you know it? After scolding, I think some moms will regret saying "I overstated ..." and fall into self-loathing. You can get angry because of your affection, but there is nothing good about being emotional.Emotionally angry children become frightened and hurt. No mom should be happy to get angry with her child. When you are emotionally angry, it is important to first follow up to relieve your child from anxiety and give them peace of mind.

Self-control after scolding a child improves the frustrating constitution

The child doesn't move as he wants, and he gets frustrated and emotionally scolded ... And I tend to get sick of myself and feel depressed as "I'm a bad mother". In such a case, it is effective to remember the basic steps to control your mind well. First, be aware of your feelings. Feelings of irritation occur unconsciously and are not a bad thing, but it is important to look at yourself calmly, saying, "Oh, I'm frustrated now!" Then, when you realize that you are calm and frustrated, first exhale slowly. It's also a good idea to go to the next room and keep a physical distance from your child.

Apologize to your child and tell them that you always love them

Mom is also a human being. She is not the perfect person. If you feel sick or feel uncomfortable, you may become emotional and angry. If you get angry with your child, say "I said too much. I'm sorry for making you sad." Then say, "Mom loves you, loves you at all times, whether you're good or bad," reassuring your child. It may be difficult for parents to apologize to their children, but it is necessary for children to show this attitude of "apologize if they make the other person feel sad." By seeing the attitude of parents, children learn the importance of apologizing properly.