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Six important roles of the father that affects the growth of a child

In a survey in Japan, when asked about "whether dads and moms share roles" about childcare, 46% answered "yes" and 45% answered "not", which is about half each. There was a tendency for moms to be in charge of how the roles of those who answered "doing" are divided, but only "taking a bath" is daddy. More than twice as many as moms answered that they are doing it. The ratio of moms and dads was about the same for "playing together and cradle", so it seems that playing with taking a bath is a standard for childcare, where dads often play a role.It seems that the degree of participation of dads in childcare and housework differs greatly depending on each family, such as the busyness of work and whether or not they are cooperative in "the division of roles between dad and mom". So what is the role that fathers are expected to play in parenting? It seems that some moms don't care about the role of dad, but the father figure in the home has a great influence on the growth of the child. A family with a clear father's role is also said to stabilize the child's mental state. Here are six generally required roles for fathers.1. Participate in child-rearing and show a reliable appearance"Daddy is reliable after all." It is very important to show such a figure in parenting. Being a reliable father gives peace of mind to the child and firmly instills the significance of being a "father."2. Being a big wall for childrenOne of the roles of a father is to stay on the wall of the child at all times. Children grow up over the wall. It's not easy to stay on the wall, but if you want to help your child grow, try to stay on the wall so that your child can grow up looking at his father's back.3. Being an entity that teaches the rules of societyFor children, the "father" is also the point of contact with society. Even if you leave the details of child-rearing to your mother, your father wants to teach you the rules and common sense when you go out into society. Existence that teaches the rules of society from the perspective of men. That is one of the roles that a father is expected to play.4. Taking children to play is also an important roleWith a strict father, the child will be atrophied. It is also a role that fathers are expected to play by moving their bodies and playing with them to their heart's content. The play that women like and the play that men like are different. In order to reduce the burden on the wife who is the mother, it is very important to take her to play from the perspective of her father.5. Hear her wife's complaints and reduce the stress of raising her girlfriendMy wife, who is raising a child, cannot afford it mentally and is under great stress. It is also an important role of the man who is her husband to listen to such wife's complaints and reduce stress. At night, after your child sleeps, or when her wife talks to you, listen carefully, not insult. Doing so should deepen the love between the couple.6. Being the one who will definitely help you in the end if anything happensThis is the most important role in parenting. It will be "If something happens, it will definitely help you at the end." From my wife's point of view, no matter how difficult it is to raise a child, if I think that it will definitely help me in the end, I can manage to overcome some of the pain. However, if you are in a state where you think that you will not help, you will get frustrated every day. The "final sense of security" that a wife who is raising a child wants. Giving it is the number one role her husband is expected to play.Let's complement the roles of father and mother and have fun raising childrenThe role of the father as well as the mother is very important for the child to grow into a good adult. Of course, the mother may play the role of the father, and depending on each other's strengths and weaknesses, the father may play the role of the mother. I would like to cover each difference between my mother and father, get the help of people close to me such as my grandparents, and work on raising children together with the people around me.