As a parent, you're worried if your child wants to take a break from school or lessons. But if it's a false illness, what should we do? This time, I will introduce the reasons why children use malingering and what parents should do.Why children make false illnesses and excusesMost of the reasons children use malingering are not simple, such as not wanting to go to school or lessons, or wanting to play at home. The background is unexpectedly complicated, such as having trouble with relationships with friends and teachers, and sometimes not wanting to play or study.Malingering may seem like a real symptom, but in some cases it can lead to actual symptoms such as fever, nausea, and pain in parts of the body. The mind and body are connected, so if you don't like it or don't want to, it may appear in your body.What if your child wants to take a break from school because of a false illness?When I talk to a child who doesn't wake up when it's time to wake up in the morning, what kind of response is correct if he says, "I'm sick and want to take a break from school or lessons?"Accept firstEven if you know that you have a false illness, don't immediately say "Is it a false illness?", But accept "You have a headache" and "Do you have a stomachache?" Using malingering means that there is some reason behind it. If you don't solve the reason, the malingering will never be cured.Listen to the childOnce you accept what your child says, listen to your child. For example, if something hurts, ask gently when it hurts, such as "when does it hurt?" Or "does it hurt at school?" Your child will speak honestly because of the peace of mind that you have accepted your malingering. It is important to note that parents do not give their opinions until the end. Listen carefully until your child finishes talking.Think together about what to doAfter listening to your child, let's think together about what to do. If you really want to take a day off, you can take a day off. Instead, discuss with your child how to spend the day. You might say that if you can spend a leisurely day and refresh your feelings, you will go from tomorrow. However, it is important to find the cause and resolve it, so be sure to keep an eye on your child.What you should not do for a child's malingeringMalingering is not a good thing, and if you notice it, you'll want to scold or ask questions. But first of all, it is important not to scold and not deny. There is always a reason to use malingering. Let's grasp the feelings of the child and hug them by trying to understand the reason and by saying and acting to give a sense of security.Create an environment where children can easily talk and consultIf your child has a false illness or makes excuses and is reluctant to go to school or kindergarten, you will most likely have some anxiety. Create an environment where children can easily talk and consult without scolding or blaming. It can also be a good opportunity to deepen the parent-child relationship.