Violent speech?; Introducing the cause and remedyMany moms who are trying hard to raise their children are worried that their children have begun to speak violently. How can I fix my child's bad language? This time, I will introduce the parents' way of thinking and how to deal with it when their child's childhood becomes worse.Why kids use violent languageMany parents were surprised when their children suddenly began to use violent words when they gradually learned the words and became able to have conversations between parents and children. It seems that many parents feel that their children's language has changed shortly after entering Kindergarten or elementary school. This is also the time to learn new words and absorb them at a fast pace.Children tend to want to imitate when they learn new words due to friends, adults other than parents, or the influence of TV programs. In other words, in many cases, they don't know whether it is a "good word" or a "bad word," and they just use the newly learned word without thinking deeply about its meaning. If an adult reacts strongly when using a rough word, it may be interesting and may be used many times. When your kids use bad words, you may want to scold them strongly, but it is important to think of them as "this is also a sign of growth."What can I do to correct my child's wording?Try to deal with "bad language", which can be said to be a sign of your child's growth, as follows.Respond calmly instead of scolding suddenlyIt makes me feel uncomfortable when my children use bad words, but it is NG to scold them suddenly. In the case of children, there are many cases where bad words are used "somehow without understanding the meaning", so first ask "the meaning of the word" and "the reason for using it". After that, ask what they wanted to convey and teach them to put it into appropriate words.Teach why you shouldn't use bad wordsIf your child says something bad, be sure to tell them why they shouldn't use it. It's easy for children to understand if they use gentle words that children can understand, such as "the person being told is hurt" and "friends can't convey their feelings".Teach words to paraphraseAs a kid, they're still not good at expressing emotions and thoughts. As a result, they often end up using bad words because they don't know what they should be using. Ask them what they wanted to convey and then teach them the correct words.Avoid becoming "bad words" = "bad children"Children often use bad words without knowing what they mean. If you keep scolding "Bad words are not good!" Without teaching the correct words, not only will your kids not be able to learn the words that can be paraphrased, but they will also feel bad. Avoid scolding your child as much as possible.Let's be a model for parents to use polite languageChildren are easily influenced by words from adults and friends around them, so if your child begins to use violent words, parents should first try to use the correct language as a model. Parents who spend a lot of time together can use the correct words and polite words so that their children can gradually become aware of the correct wording. When your kids use good language, give a lot of compliments. From time to time, it may be important for parents to look back on their own language, as they may have unknowingly used violent language in front of their children.If your child's language gets worse, keep calm and watch overAs children grow at an alarming rate, it is one of the growth processes that the language is disturbed in group life. It will be easier for you to think that you should watch over the words warmly to some extent and then talk to them each time you are concerned about the wording. However, if you say terrible words that deny or curse the other person's existence, you also need to be harshly scolded. Be patient, and if you talk many times, your parents' feelings will surely be conveyed.