PARENTS' OVER EXPECTATIONS HARMS CHILDRENS' LIFE

🎓Wisdom from Japanese education 🎓vol.7In 2016, a father stabbed his son (a 6-year-old middle school student) who was studying for a high school exam in Japan.The father, who attended a high school with a high level of academic ability, was stabbed while speeding as he eagerly guided his son to attend a high school like his.In Japan, there is the word 'educational abuse'.「Educational abuse」 means that the child can attend the best school recognized by others or the child should be referred to a doctor or nurse. You have to train hard to become a lawyer. I have high expectations. As expected, the test results are not improving; If you fail the exam, use violence to describe yourself as a child who can do nothing.Killing a child is an extreme example. On the one hand, it can be said that suppressing a parent's evaluation of a child and forcing him to do something can have many consequences.As a result of accumulating stress without being able to tell your parents how you really feel, one day you become a ruthless person because you feel that if you become an adult who is unconscious and unable to leave home, one day you will not be able to leave home.It is not a bad thing for a parent to give his child expectations and enthusiastic support. More than that, if you turn it into love, it will be a great strength for the baby and can be fulfilled.The main need is 「the child's desire」.Shouldn't parents always be aware that when a child reaches the age of understanding, what he or she is learning or doing is something that the child really wants to pursue?The problem with this is that the child does not understand the child's motives. Children who are terrified of their parents may say that it is fun, even if they do not like what they are doing.The best way to understand your child's conscience is to create an environment where you can communicate well with your child and express your true feelings. Or you have no choice but to take a closer look at your child's facial expressions on a daily basis.If the child feels hatred at that time, I think the parent should have the courage to let it go. There is no such thing as a "bad" topic in a child's life.#WisdomfromJapaneseeducation