Affection is important [YOU are the best MOM] vol.22

Let's fully convey the affection of mom to the child who returns the baby (act like a baby)

When your younger child is born, you will be more busy with housework and childcare than ever before. At such times, it is the "baby return" symptom of the older child that bothers moms. Maybe she wants her to be the other person, but she may get frustrated and scolded. It can be quite difficult if the baby returns for a long time, but it must be dealt with well in order to develop a good heart for the child. To do this, it is important to first understand why your child behaves like a baby.

The reason why the older child returns the baby is because he loves mom

There is, of course, a reason for the older child to return the baby. Most of the causes are "anxiety". Because she loves mommy, she becomes sensitive to different things and feels uneasy about the changes. This is not a bad thing, but evidence that the older child was happy with her relationship with her mom. That is why I feel anxiety and a sense of crisis about the appearance of my younger child, who is an invisible rival. She may not be "my own" mom, she may not see herself, mom may be more important to her younger child ... Such anxiety is growing in the heart of the older child.

Hold me tight and say "I love you"

All that is needed to overcome it is her affection from her mom. Hold it tight and say "I love you" so that your older child can feel the affection. Even if you are busy caring for her younger child, you can easily convey her affection. That is the energy to overcome anxiety. Even adults become anxious when the environment changes. It's the same for children. Changes in a reassuring home are important events for children. When the older child returns the baby, many moms are worried about "Is it lacking in love?" Or "Is there a problem with how to treat the baby?" It's a signal. By taking skinship and communication consciously during this period, the older child will feel the affection of mom and will be able to accept the change with peace of mind.