Coaching in Parenting?
What is parenting coaching? Two ways to raise a child and the benefits you get from it
What is coaching? What does parenting coaching mean? I heard the word coaching, but how can a child develop self-affirmation and independence? For moms who have such questions, this time I will explain what coaching is and how to use it for child-rearing.
What is parenting coaching?
What exactly is parenting coaching? Coaching is about finding a way to achieve goals and solve problems through communication. In other words, the coach is only in the role of finding a way, not instructing and acting. We will incorporate that idea and communication into child-rearing as it is.In other words, as if the mom were the coach of her child, instead of giving instructions and controlling the mom, she listens to the child's story and engages in drawing out the opinions and thoughts of the child. It is a method. So, specifically, how should coaching be used for child-rearing?
Two Ways of Parenting Coaching to Extend Your Child
Incorporating and practicing coaching in parenting is surprisingly easy! All you have to do is practice the two methods I'm about to introduce.
First of all, listen to the story of the child
Don't deny your child's story, "Don't say that," "That's not the case," but listen to the end first. In particular, there are many occasions when a child fails, makes a mistake, has a brother-sister quarrel, and wants to get angry. please look. Or you can say "You thought so" or "I was disappointed" instead of your child's feelings.While listening, it is also good to show understanding and show "I'm listening properly" or repeat the words that the child said. For children, just because their mom listens to them gives them a sense of security, and a relationship of trust between parents and children is created. Of course, it's not always the time to listen seriously. Even moms are busy. It's okay if you can't hear it. It can be 5 or 10 minutes a day. If you have time to listen carefully, your child will be satisfied.
Increase communication to approve children
Communicating to approve a child is to recognize the child and convey words that foster a sense of self-affirmation. For example, skin-ships such as hugging and stroking the head are one of them. Another approval is to respond with a smile when your eyes meet, even if you are a little far away, or to call your name.Approval is easier than "praising" and is a communication that can be practiced in many situations of parenting and develops a child's self-affirmation. If you continue to approve, the relationship of trust between parent and child will become stronger. If the relationship of trust between the parent and child is firmly established, even if the mom is usually a little angry, the parent-child relationship will not be a problem.
Four Benefits of Parenting Coaching
What are the benefits of actually providing parenting coaching? From here, let's look at the four effects that can be obtained as a child grows up.
1. The problem becomes clear
By thinking about mom's questions, you will be able to realize things that you didn't even notice. By interacting with mom, the vague problems that the child had become clear. Understanding the problems yourself can help you set goals and have goals, which can lead to aspirations.
2. Gain confidence in yourself
By setting specific goals in the parenting coaching dialogue, you will be able to experience a stronger sense of accomplishment when you achieve them, which will lead to confidence that you can do it if you do your best. By increasing the self-affirmation of the child, not only will you take good care of yourself, but you will also take good care of others, and you will become better at interacting with others.
3. Communication skills improve
Coaching also provides training to think about mom's questions and convey their thoughts to the other person, so the quality of communication can be improved by accumulating dialogues. Increasing the experience of having the other person understand your thoughts and feelings will increase your motivation to communicate with others.
4. Be flexible in thinking
Children tend to have a strong self-centered mindset, so by discussing with others, you can realize that you have a different mindset. By accumulating such things, if you can think about things from various angles, you will acquire a flexible way of thinking that is not bound by stereotypes.How was it? The methods introduced this time are all that can be put into practice immediately from today. And no matter how old your child is, it works. Parenting can be redone at any time. If you're having trouble raising a child or are having a hard time, we recommend that you start with coaching.