Giving your Child Motivation to Succeed!! [YOU are the best MOM] vol.4

[YOU are the best MOM] vol.4Let your child think about "how can you do it" instead of "why you can't do it"!

It's easy to see what other people can't do, but it's often frustrating to see what your child can't do. For example, if you can't solve the study problem you just taught, why can't you! ?? I think many moms have had the experience of being frustrated and yelling, but the unconscious word "Why can't you do it !?" confuses the child. You should also be aware that the phrase "why can't you do it !?" not only confuses the child, but can also reduce self-affirmation and self-affirmation.

Change "Why can't you do it !?" to "How can you do it?"

When asked "Why can't I do it !?", most children don't know why, and often they can't answer anything while they are down. If you answer clearly "I can't do it because it's XX" and "I don't know because it's XX", there is a way for parents to deal with it, but many moms will be frustrated and scolded by the child who doesn't answer anything. Is it not? However, people's minds and behaviors often do not resolve even if the cause is known. In such a case, one way is to keep thinking about how to do it. The same is true for parenting and discipline. Sometimes it becomes apparent when parents change their thinking, "How can I do it?" Rather than "Why can't I?"

The lack of results isn't because of the cause, it's just that they don't know how to make an effort

A child who is denied "why can't you !?" can lose confidence and even have less self-affirmation. With any goal, when you can't get results, you can get results relatively quickly by thinking about "how you can do it" instead of "what's wrong". This future-oriented way of thinking is also very effective for parenting and discipline. It can be applied to anything such as tidying up, homework, and lessons. If you are usually scolding "Why can't you get rid of it no matter how many times you say it?", "How can a child get rid of it easily?" Let's start by changing.

Let's raise a child who can achieve the goal by having a lot of experience of thinking with parents and children on a daily basis

Even if you think about "why you can't do it" and find out the cause, you won't be able to do it. Instead, let your child develop the habit of repeatedly testing hypotheses, thinking about "how can we do it?" Some may think that one day they will think for themselves when they grow up. However, the ability to think is not something that you can easily acquire, but something that you will acquire over time. Parents who are close to us should always ask their children "how can we do what we can do?" And think together about what to start with and how to proceed. Let's. The experience of thinking together will help you to think positively and move forward by yourself, "How can you achieve your goals?" After your child grows up!