Not Relying on People?

Not used to relying on people for childcare and work! Things such mums should try!

Moms who are busy with child-rearing, housework, and work sometimes want someone to help. But isn't it annoying if you rely on people? Wouldn't it be nice if you could do your best?Wouldn't such a mom allow herself to "rely on people" a little more? If you can afford it, it will make you happy as well as those around you. This time, I would like to introduce what I would like moms who are not good at relying on such people to try.

What kind of person is a good person to rely on?

It makes me envious when I see "people who are good at relying" who are always helped by others. There are two characteristics of a person who is good at relying on:1. Communicate your feelings honestlyPeople who cannot rely on others are not good at "asking" first. I think there are many people who say, "I'll do it myself, even if I can't do it," rather than relying on people. On the other hand, people who are good at relying are honestly themselves when asking for something, "I can not do it myself, I want you to help me" "I am too busy now and I want you to help me a little" It conveys the feelings and situation of. If you feel that you are over your capacity, express your feelings honestly.2. Be sure to thankI think that people who are good at relying on them often give "returns and gratitude" for what they have received. It's not limited to things. Whenever I get something, I always say thank you, saying, "Thank you very much. Thank you!" Excessive repayment can be a burden to the other party, but be sure to say thank you.

Three ways to rely on people

 People who can't rely on people have come up with the idea that it's bad to rely on people because they grew up in an environment where they weren't allowed to rely on people since they were children. From there, it has formed values ​​such as "relying on people causes trouble" and "showing weaknesses makes people disliked". But you can still fix that value yourself. To do this, start by saying, "Forgive yourself." You can make it much easier just by paying attention to the following three points when interacting with people in your work or daily life.1. Forgive the weak part in yourselfHe can't show his weaknesses to others because he can't forgive his weaknesses. For example, one of our weaknesses is that we cannot rely on people and cannot be pampered. Don't blame or bully yourself because you can't rely on others. If you say that, you may end up in a vicious circle of blaming yourself, saying, "You can't blame yourself!", But let's stop that too. If you admit that you are not good and forgive yourself, you will be relaxed. Just admit, "I'm not good here, I'm weak here," and don't blame me, just go for improvement.2. Let's forgive the weak part of peopleRecognize and forgive your weaknesses, and at the same time forgive the weaknesses of others. When I think that I can't forgive other people for voicing or spoiling, I infer that I can't forgive others for voicing or spoiling. It will end up.What you think about people and how you treat them will come back to you. This is called The Mirror Rule. Therefore, let's forgive all the weaknesses, spoiled points, and bad points of the people around us in our hearts. No matter how weak or bad you are, just accept it as "that kind of person" and don't blame it as "this should be". If you can forgive others, it will seem natural for them to forgive you, and you will be able to show your weaknesses and rely on them.3. Let's admit to relying on people to liveYou have to live by your own power without relying on people! However, it may be a little easier to realize that it is actually impossible. Even if I live normally, I am inconvenienced by someone's care. It is impossible not to bother anyone completely. Even if you try to smile so as not to make people feel uncomfortable, there are some people who look at that smile and become unhappy without permission saying "I hate people who are happy". is. Even if I try to be stubborn, I am originally supported by many people and cause trouble to many people. With that in mind, you'll be grateful to everyone for giving up your meaningless pride.