Overcoming Weaknesses [YOU are the best MOM] vol.17
Let's overcome what children are not good at by accumulating small "done!"
No matter how many times I scolded "Please clean up !!", my child's children's room is not cleaned up at all. I think there are many parents who are getting frustrated every day.However, there is something I want you to think about before scolding.Children are not motivated when challenged for something far from their abilities. If you let them do what they can't do and keep saying, "Why can't I change clothes by myself?" Or "Why can't I get rid of it?", The child loses confidence and says, "I can't do anything. "I'm a human being," and I start to deny myself. For example, no matter how much you scold a child who is not good at cleaning up, it will not be effective. Even if you clean up the place, the room will be cluttered again. It is a repetition. That's because I don't know how to clean it up in the first place. In other words, people don't get good at cleaning up right away.
The instructions are not transmitted. Create an environment where children can easily take action
It's hard for a child to know what to do just by "cleaning up". Let's set an example while moms clean up together. And, for example, ask your child to clean up only the last three. If you can do that, say "It's beautiful. You've cleaned it up." Next time, you will learn to clean up with "small steps" that gradually increase the amount that you can do by yourself, such as 5 next time, and then leave all the partial parts. Accumulating small "made" will be a successful experience, which will lead to motivation for the next time.
If you feel like your child doesn't listen, try simplifying the instructions
Not limited to tidying up, when the child does not move immediately, the instructions such as "prepare to go out" and "properly" may be too rough. If you feel that your child doesn't listen, revisit your instructions. As a child, you may not be rebellious, you just don't know what to do. With the image of climbing a small staircase little by little, we will show you the first step that you can definitely do and lead to a successful experience. This idea also helps children find out what they can do now to make their big dreams come true.