Parental support to overcome the 10-years-old "wall?"

Have you ever heard the word "10-year-old wall"? During this time, children are more likely to feel weak, lose confidence, or hit a "wall" in a variety of situations, such as learning, living, and friendships. Here, we will explain what these "walls" are all about and how to deal with them in busy homes.What is the 10-year-old wall?At the age of 9-10, you will be able to see things objectively to some extent. As your body grows bigger and your athletic ability develops, it's time to do more than before. On the other hand, there are large individual differences in growth, and it is also a time when you can clearly understand what you can and cannot do by comparing yourself with your friends and siblings. The influence of the "10-year-old wall" can be broadly divided into three aspects: "living aspect", "learning aspect", and "physical fitness aspect".In terms of lifeChildren around this time are also called "gang age", and they start to think about the evaluation of their friends of the same generation rather than the evaluation of adults such as parents and teachers. When a friend points out a bad point, he cares too much, and even if his parents gently follow him, "It's okay," he may not listen. In addition, as objective judgment begins to develop, it is easy to feel inferior to the surroundings, such as "I can't do it compared to my friends" and "I can't do this", such as "Because" and "I can't do it anyway". They often take a throwing attitude.In terms of learningLearning in the lower grades of elementary school mainly focuses on visible concrete objects and familiar things. However, as the upper grades progress, the number of abstract contents that are difficult to imagine concretely, such as arithmetic decimals, fractions, and science, increases. The reason for this increase in learning content is that abstract thinking begins to grow in children during this period, but there are individual differences in growth, and many children stumble.In terms of physical strengthIt is also around this time that the body grows significantly. However, there are individual differences in their growth, and it is often the case that one child grows tall quickly, while another does not. Also, with physical changes, athletic performance begins to differ. It is also around this time that I can clearly realize that I can (cannot) exercise because I can see myself objectively.How to support parents overcoming the 10-year-old barrierChildren can overcome barriers and grow big, but if they are too worried, they need adult support. We will explain what kind of support parents should provide for each child's behavior.Specific praiseChildren who lose confidence because they focus on their weaknesses compared to others need to be self-sufficient. The best way parents can do it is to praise them. Let parents be aware of their strengths by specifically telling, complimenting, and admitting what they can and can do to their children so that they can regain their confidence and self-esteem. Is it true for children these days to be praised for something rather than concrete? I doubt that. Therefore, it is important to convey not only compliments but also what kind of words and actions were good. If you are satisfied with the compliment, you will be able to regain your confidence. On top of that, when it comes to "what you can't do," you should feel positive if you discuss concretely how you can do it and tell them that you will work together.Reification and review. Supports iterationIt would be nice to have support that allows you to give concrete examples and visually understand with images, illustrations, and illustrations so that you can imagine as concretely as possible. For science experiments and movements of constellations, it is a good idea to search for and show the video explanations on the video site in an easy-to-understand manner. Also, review and iterative learning are important for things that you are not good at. In particular, mathematics is a stacking-type subject, so if you are not good at it somewhere, you will have more and more things you do not understand. Let's find out how much we know and what we don't know so that we can support you. It is also effective to repeatedly tackle similar problems and related problems in order to establish understanding.Find what you are good atChildren who have "good things" can feel confident and self-affirmation. For example, if you are a child who likes books, find out that you can read a lot of books as an "advantage". Also, if you can overcome the complex that you cannot exercise in the same genre of "exercise", it will be easier to solve. For example, a child who is slow in sprinting may be able to get results in a marathon. There are a wide range of genres of exercise, such as ball games, gymnastics, and swimming. Even one is fine, so if you have something you are good at, you can be confident that you will not lose. It is a good idea to help your child by practicing with your dad and mom.Parents warmly watch over their children and overcome the 10-year-old wallThe "10-year-old wall" that stands up when a child turns 9 to 10 years old. But that's not a bad thing. It is the first step of the adult stairs that my child will welcome for the first time. Overcoming this wall, the child will grow strong and strong. Let's overcome the "10-year-old wall" together by having moms and dads warmly watch over and help their children.