"Parenting without getting angry" in Northern Europe?

In Northern Europe, it is said that "childcare without anger" is better than the conventional "strict childcare". However, when you actually raise a child, you often get emotionally compromised. This time, we will introduce the benefits of childcare without getting angry, and the points and precautions when practicing it.Benefits of childcare without angerFirst, let's see what kind of benefits there are in raising children without getting angry.Easy for children to express themselvesIt is said that children who grow up too angry tend to have an introverted personality that cares about their surrounding complexion. There is also a theory that the more often you are punished or yelled at, the more aggressive you are. If you try not to get angry with your child emotionally, it will be easier for your child to express his or her opinions and thoughts in a straightforward manner. In addition, the spirit of challenge may be strong and you may be able to work positively on various things.It is difficult for children to accumulate stressAnother big advantage of childcare without getting angry is that the child is less stressed. It is said that if you grow up in a stress-free environment, you will be able to control your own stress. In addition, less stress makes it easier to build good relationships and can be expected to be effective in improving communication skills.Points for childcare that does not get angryEven if you know that there are benefits, it is quite difficult to raise a child without getting angry. Next, let's take a look at the points when practicing childcare without getting angry.Understand your anger patternUnderstanding when and what you feel angry is the first step towards childcare that doesn't get angry. To do this, it is recommended that you first record your own anger. By recording "feeling angry", "feelings at that time", "why you wanted it", "improvement measures", etc., you will be able to grasp the pattern of anger. If you know the pattern of anger, you will be able to avoid things that could lead to anger.Create a place to calm downIt is also important to have a place where you can calm yourself when you get angry. If it's difficult to leave, just counting three in your head can help you calm down a bit.Frequently compliment your childAs a parent, you'll only notice the bad things about your child, but it's important to look at what you're doing. Let's praise a lot while touching the body, such as stroking the head even if it is natural that "I was able to clean up".Try to deal with things other than getting angryIf your child doesn't listen to you, don't get angry and try different ways. For example, for a child who is having a hard time getting ready to go out, it is a good idea to give them options such as "Are you ready to go out? Or are you not going out today?" It's also a good idea to indirectly encourage your child to take action by asking, "Are you ready to go out?"Think with the feelings of a childEven adults feel unpleasant when they get angry at work or at home. It is also important to take the child's point of view and be aware of how you would feel if you were angry in the same way.Precautions for childcare that does not get angryLastly, I would like to introduce some points to keep in mind when raising children without getting angry.Not at the mercy of the childSome people mistakenly think that "don't get angry = children's obedience", but it is important to teach what is good and what is bad. Make sure your child has a solid line to learn the rules of society correctly. You can't do what you can't do, you can't do what you can't do, while staying close to your child's feelings. Please tell your child about such things.Dangerous thing. If you do something that bothers you, scold it brieflyJust because you're raising a child without getting angry doesn't mean you shouldn't scold your child. If your child is in danger or causes trouble to others, scold him immediately. At this time, it is important to note that scolding is limited to the behavior of the child. Words that deny a child's personality, such as "a really bad child," are a No-No. Also, long sermons are not very effective, so be sure to simply scold them for bad behavior, such as "It's dangerous to jump out on the road."Parenting without getting angry can also be an opportunity to look at the cause of mom's anger.Since parents are also humans, they may be swayed by emotions. Nowadays, many moms have a lot of stress, so getting angry and feeling refreshed for a while, but after that, there are many cases where they feel tired and strongly guilty. Parenting without getting angry also has the effect of being able to digest the cause of such mom's anger. If there is something you can refer to with the childcare method that you do not get angry with, please try it.