Parents arguing in front of their kids; What not to do

I think that every family will have a couples' quarrel, but are you having a fight in front of your children? Even if the child is a baby and does not understand the language, the changes of mom and dad are sensitive. So this time, I will introduce the influence of a couple quarrel on a child and how to follow up when you have a fight in front of a child.What is the effect of a couple quarrel on a baby?Have you ever been sad or scared when you were a kid watching a quarrel between your parents? I still don't understand the words, and it has a more negative effect on babies who are developing their personality.Get nervousBabies are sensitive to changes in the air. Feeling the disturbing atmosphere of your parents and the sense of urgency during a quarrel, your child will be in a state of tension both physically and mentally.Feel scaredWhen the parents start arguing, the baby knows that the fight has begun, but because he doesn't understand the language, he doesn't know the cause. When a baby thinks their parents are angry, and the parents' loud voice, rough tone, and scary facial expressions make them feel a sense of fear they've never experienced before. The combination of tension and fear can cause great stress, slow growth and development, and make the child mentally unstable.Follow-up after having a fight in front of a childAvoid quarreling with your spouse in front of your children. It's best not to quarrel, but be sure to follow after you've done so.Say "It's not your fault"First of all, having a couple quarrel or making a loud voice in front of a child can make the child feel blamed. Tell them that you didn't quarrel, so that your child doesn't think it's their fault that this quarrel happened. Also, what parents should show as a model is the appearance of saying "I'm sorry". Parents  should prove themselves as there are many people who can't be honest and apologize when they do something wrong. It creates a sense of security that the quarrel is over and the child does not blame himself.Tell the cause of the quarrelIsn't the child usually treated as "because it's a child"? Even babies who don't understand the meaning of words can be sensitive to changes in their parents. Even a baby about one month old may be traumatized if he continues to cry when he is surprised by the loud voice of a couple quarrel.As a member of the family, even a small child should apologize for causing anxiety and worry, and explain in words the cause of the quarrel between the couple. Tell your child why, such as "I didn't like being told XX" or "I was frustrated and said something terrible." But don't blame your spouse or your child. Instead of saying bad things about the other person, just tell them why you got into a fight.Show the appearance of reconciliationMany children who are listening to a quarrel between husband and wife want to make up quickly and finish early. Even if they stop talking loudly or the quarrel ends, the child still has anxiety that "the quarrel is still going o ...". Take responsibility for your children and show them how to make amends.At this time, it is better not just to apologize, but to express your usual gratitude to each other as a couple. If you give your child a sense of security, "I'm glad I'm good friends, even though I sometimes have a fight," I can put a break in my child's feelings.Even if you know that it's best to show your parents how they are getting along with each other, the reality is that it doesn't work that well. Fights occur because they try to understand each other. Try to make your child think that fighting is not just a negative thing, but that you can overcome it and create a better home environment. For that reason, if you have a couple quarrel in front of your child, it is important to apologize to each other and show an example of reconciliation to reassure you.