Things Moms Should Not Say in front of the Children

Are you swearing, complaining, or complaining about your husband in front of your child? Since moms are also humans, you may want to complain, but children often look at moms' behavior. If mom treats dad lightly or complains all the time, there is a risk that the child will imitate it and that it will have a great negative impact on the future of the child. This time, I will tell you about the bad behavior of moms who hate dads and the disadvantages of complaining about dads in front of children.Mom's bad behavior that makes the children hate their dadActively say what's wrong with your husband"You told me to put the laundry here!" "Don't lie down, do this soon!" "Why don't you do it when you always say it?" Wouldn't you be willing to tell your husband what's wrong, as if you were paying attention to your child?I think it's better not to say it, but just pay attention to your husband, and since my child is really watching, just saying "Daddy ~ ◯◯ already!" and so on have to be done with extreme care . You really have to be careful.Complain in the absence of dadAre you complaining to your husband in front of your kids, such as "Daddy is always drinking" and "Daddy is just touching his smartphone at home"? Also, do you ever get excited by complaining to your husband in front of your kids with your friends? Even a light word from moms may make a child feel that "dad is annoying mom" or "mom is sad because of dad". If you just want to complain, avoid doing it in front of your child.Compare with other dads"Daddy of ◯◯ cooks for his family on weekends." "Daddy of ◯◯ is cool ~". That may be good, but when the word or meaning "Our dad is ..." is added, it suddenly lowers the value of your own husband. For children, they want their dad to be the best. Rather than lowering the value compared to other dads, why not suggest to your husband, "Why don't you try it too?" Surprisingly, he might become competitive and do his best, saying, "I will too!"Say "You can't be like a dad"Have you been frustrated by your husband playing games on his smartphone or sleeping forever on holidays and just saying to your child, "You shouldn't be like dad?" Or, warn a lazy and relaxed kid, "If you do that, you'll be like a dad in the future!" You've decided that this is a bad person, isn't it? Before you know it, that consciousness may be instilled in your child. They want their dad to be a good example. That is, of course, true for moms themselves. Why don't you talk with your spouse and improve each other, not in front of your children?Disadvantages of complaining about dad in front of childrenBoys lose their dad's ideal "living example"For children, dads and moms are examples of life. Especially for boys, dads are role models for life. And yet, when moms always complain and complain about dads, boys start to think "dads are bad people" and lose respect, so they lose a living example. is. He can also think, "He's a bad guy, so he can't help himself."Even if your husband isn't at home because he's busy with work, you should say more of, "Let's talk to him and decide," "Let's ask him because it's important." Try to make statements that your kids will respect. Mama's remarks can enhance her husband's presence and impress her child as a “reliable presence”. In this way, boys will be able to grow up powerfully with dad as their idol.Girls may have a distorted view of men in the futureOn the other hand, for a girl, her role model is mom. What if the mom is always sighing while complaining and complaining about her husband? She may unknowingly take root in her thoughts that "marriage will not make you happy," "men are unreliable," and "men should not be trusted." She may become a woman who can only have a distorted view of men, even after she grows up. I think there are some cases where you grow up trying to live a different life from your mom, but living while denying your favorite special being, dad, is never happy for a child. It is important for moms to try to live a happy life.Let's solve the dissatisfaction with dad by facing each other as a coupleThat said, in reality, I don't think most moms are happy with their husbands, and she can't always have a harmonious marriage. However, in such a case, do not complain or complain in front of your child, and do not endure and agonize yourself, but let's face each other as a couple and solve them one by one.