Shyness & Babies

Till when will your baby be shy with strangers?Even if you know that shyness is common, if a baby who was smiling no matter who hugged him until yesterday suddenly started crying when he was hugged by someone other than his parents, he would still be worried as a parent. When does this shyness begin and how long does it last? We will also explain why it starts suddenly and what to do about it.How long is your baby's shyness?It is said that the baby's shyness begins around 6 to 12 months after birth and settles around 2 years old. However, because the situation varies depending on individuality and family environment, some children start around 3 months old and others start after 2 years old. Also, the degree of shyness varies from person to person. Some babies start crying violently when held by someone other than their mom, and some babies are completely shy when held by anyone.The reason why shyness suddenly startsShyness begins suddenly at one point. The reason is that I can now understand that my baby is different. In other words, shyness begins when the baby is able to distinguish between parents and others. If you understand that, you will be able to enjoy your child's growth obediently. Also, if you go to an unfamiliar place, your baby may suddenly start crying, but this place knowing (doesn't like unfamiliar places) is a sign of growth that you can distinguish the place like a shyness.6 Ways to improve for Shy BabiesEven if you know that shyness is a sign of growth, if you stay with your mom and don't leave it to anyone, your grandfather, grandmother, and other people around you will feel sad. Here are six measures to overcome such shyness.1. Mom first calms her baby downIf mom is restless in her first place, or if she is worried that her baby will be shy, that will be communicated to her baby. Shyness is not a bad thing, and it is a sign of growth. First of all, if the mom feels comfortable with her and treats her with the feeling that "her shyness is okay!", The baby may become shy before you know it.2. She gradually gets used to itIt is very difficult to have a baby hug you when you are shy. First of all, please create a situation where your baby can feel at ease, such as "It's okay to stay in the same space" and "It's okay if you're hugged by your mom". Once you get used to it, your baby will start seeing and approaching people other than mom. After that, if you take a light skin ship with the other person, you may lose your baby's shyness.3.  Get used to the baby in the "usual place"Babies at this time may "know the place" at the same time as they are shy. And when the baby is new or unfamiliar, he tends to be shy. If you want to show your grandparents what your baby looks like, instead of taking your baby to an unfamiliar place to meet you, get used to it in a "usual place" where your baby can feel at ease, such as at home. Please give me.4. Face to face every dayFrequent face-to-face contact is also effective if you want to improve your shyness to a particular person. Don't let people say, "I'm sorry to be shy and cry," but try to meet face to face. This will make it easier for your baby to remember the person's face and recognize him as a reassuring person. In addition, I sometimes get acquainted with my dad when he is busy with work and the days when he does not see his face continue. In such a case, it is a good idea to put a picture of your dad in the position where you can see your baby, or make a video call with your dad to increase the chances that your baby will see your dad's face.5. Show a good friend with momIs your baby wanting a cell phone or bag that moms often have, but not so interested in other people's things? One of the reasons may be that the baby usually looks at mom and is interested in the relationship between mom and things. The same is true for shyness, and when there is a person who does not know much, I often watch the person's appearance and mom's reaction. It will be easier for your baby to feel at ease if you show your mom and the person getting along well, or tell them that "this person is mom's friend" and "you can rest assured".6. Touch the outside worldAs the baby grows up, he becomes interested in the outside world and builds relationships with people other than moms. I don't like to be shy and cry, and if I stay inside the house, my baby will be deprived of the opportunity to have "experiences that can only be done outside" such as interacting with people other than moms. By meeting various people little by little and showing the outside world while being shy, the amount of shyness will naturally decrease.How was it? Shyness is not due to the way moms are raised, so don't take it too seriously. In addition, since shyness does not disappear in a day or two, it gradually subsides as the baby's heart grows and the accumulation of various experiences every day. You should wait to overcome your shyness with a relaxed feeling that "Baby really likes mom".