"Terrible twos;" Causes and good remedies
"Terrible twos;" Causes and good remediesWhen a child is around 2 years old, the "unpleasant period" comes. When the unpleasant period is reached, many moms will have trouble responding to the increase in the behavior of children, such as insisting that they "do it themselves!" Or "I don't like it!" You may be worried that the condition will last forever. This time, I will introduce how long the unpleasant period will last and how to survive even a little easier.What is the unpleasant period?The period when the ego grows in the baby and begins to assert itself is called this unpleasant period. The child is interested in various things, want to do it by themselves, and convey their emotions straight to the dad and mom.From when to when is the unpleasant period?The unpleasant period means that children around the age of 2 become more self-assertive, saying "I don't like it! No!". It is also said to be a "devil's 2-year-old child." The ego has sprung up, and as moms and dads have said, they are taking a step toward becoming independent from the state of being left untouched. In general, when I was about 3 years old, I became calm, and by the time I was 4 years old, the unpleasant period was over without my knowledge! It seems that many people say that.What is the cause of the unpleasant period?This is said to occur because the frontal lobe of the child's brain, which is still in the process of growth, is underdeveloped. They want to do things by themselves, they don't get what they want, and they can't control their feelings at that time.How to deal with the unpleasant period
The unpleasant period that makes you want to say "I hate my parents! ". Know what to do when it starts and avoid any frustration or conflict with each other.Represent and accept your child's feelingsSmall children have just learned the language and can't talk a lot. It's difficult to know exactly, but I guessed why they didn't like it from the situation, and said, "You wanted to do it," or "I missed the cat somewhere." Let's speak for your feelings. By speaking in this way, both the child and himself will feel calm.Let's do what we wantA 2-year-old child who wants to do what he can't do. Parents may think "I can't do it anyway", but I want to respect the feelings I want to do in order to motivate my children. Let's take the child's feelings and let them do it first and watch over. You may not want to help, but let's support by saying, "You've done it so far" and "Would you like to help because it's difficult here?" However, let's stop immediately about dangerous things and things that should not be done. Your child may have tantrums, but once you're calm, explain why it didn't work.Live a regular life and share your scheduleLive a regular life every day and let them know your plans for going out in advance. Your child can look ahead, so you can rest assured that your dislike may be reduced. Whenever you do something like "let's change clothes" or "let's eat rice", be sure to speak out in advance.Pay attention to your physical conditionThe cause of discomfort can also be physiological problems such as sleepiness, tiredness, hunger, pain, and discomfort. It can also be moody due to some illness. If you don't like it more than usual, or if you continue to be in a bad mood, check your physical condition.Let's survive the unpleasant period by thinking that it is evidence of brain growth!
From a child's point of view, they want to do it, but they don't get what they want. The unpleasant period is a difficult time for both parties. However, if the brain develops well and can think about various things, this unpleasant period will surely come to an end. The unpleasant period is in the middle of the growth of the brain. Let's survive well and spend time so that mom and dad will not be overwhelmed.