Watching quarrels between children becomes one of the important lessons [YOU are the best MOM] vol.19

Watching quarrels between children becomes one of the important lessons

Children will have more opportunities to play with their friends from around 3 years old. Quarrels and troubles occur on a daily basis, often annoying moms. Sometimes she reports to her mom that she has taken her toys and pulled her clothes and asks for help. I'm worried that children will feel sad when they have a fight. It's easy for moms to arbitrate and settle. But that's when your child has a chance to think and solve for himself.

I will guide you so that you can solve it yourself

For example, I saw a child playing ball in the park. However, the child had the ball taken by a friend. Immediately the child rushes to Mom and asks for her help. I often see such scenes when playing with children, and moms may feel sorry for them and go back together. But then the child will always ask for mom's help. But mom can't help her forever. What a child needs is to acquire "the ability to solve it by himself". If the problem is serious or if it injures a friend, an adult needs to solve it, but watch over the trivial problems.

Fighting between children is one of the important lessons

The goal of parenting is to make the child independent. Moms can't protect children in society all the time. Take it as an opportunity to solve it yourself and watch over it. Trouble between children is often not as serious as mothers think. It is counterproductive to think too much about your child and mediate too much. You should be able to grow steadily just by believing in the strength of your child and watching over them. Children's quarrels are not a bad thing, they are the best opportunity to grow towards independence. It is also the role of parents to suppress their desire to mediate and guide them to think and solve for themselves.