Children having difficulty speaking in front of people

Overcoming "Stage Fright"My kids talk a lot at home, but when they go to a school recital or in public, their face turns bright red and they can't talk at all... It makes me feel frustrated when I see my children like that. However, it's too early to give up! In this issue, we will explain why children develop "stage fright", what they can do to overcome this, and what parents can do to help.Why stage fright?When become nervous, they act frightened because the brain is working normally.Our brain has a "defense function" to avoid various external dangers and sustain our own life. One of them is that when you are about to hit a car and think it is "dangerous!", Your body reacts and moves with a quick decision. In the same way, the brain works not only to protect the body but also to protect one's "mind" and "mental aspect".Humans have something called "self-esteem." Will Schutz, an American psychologist, subdivides this "self-esteem" into three parts: "self-importance," "self-competence," and "self-esteem." Self-importance is the desire to "recognize yourself as an important person." You will be satisfied when you are told "Thank you". Self-competence is the desire to be able to make accurate decisions and take actions, and is satisfied when people say "it's amazing" or "you've grown up". The last self-favorite feeling is the desire to be liked by people. It is satisfied when people say "I like it" or "I like it". These three desires are collectively called "self-esteem." When this "self-esteem" is about to be hurt, the brain signals "I hurt my heart!", And as a result, it seems that I get "sickness".5 Ways to Overcome Children's Stage FrightSo what can a child do to overcome it? Introducing 5 methods as effective actions if the child himself works on it. Try each one and find the one that suits your child.1. Have an mindset that one can do wellWhen your child have a chance to appear in public such as a recital or a speech, give them an impression that they are doing well. It is good for parents to talk about the situation and imagining it together, and it is also effective to draw a picture on paper to embody the impression. Since humans store information and emotions obtained by the five senses as memories in the brain, drawing a picture that stimulates the five senses as a fictitious memory material. Imagine yourself talking happily and smoothly in public, and the people around you listening to you with a smile and saying happy words such as "nice!" And "good!".2. Take a deep breathThis is a well-known method, but it is also effective for stage fright. When the symptoms of "nervousness" appear, breathing often becomes shallow. If you breathe shallowly, it will be difficult for you to speak, and it will be difficult for the listener to hear what the speaker is saying, and you will not be able to understand it. When the production approaches, try to take a deep breath slowly. Then, inhale firmly and pronounce the words when you exhale.3. Try to speak slowlyWhen they become nervous, some people inevitably talk quickly. It seems that when you get out in front of people or get attention, you want to finish something you don't like as soon as possible. Tongue twisters make you more nervous because you feel upset and you don't know what you're talking about or what you should talk about. It will be easier for the listeners to hear if you try to speak slowly and loudly.4. Determine the position of the viewpointWhen you stand in front of a large number of people, if you look at them, you will become more aware that you are being "seen" and you will become more and more "sick." Therefore, when you stand in front of a large number of people from the beginning, it is recommended that you decide on some "what you see" where to look at yourself. It's a good idea to look at some of the things you see when you're talking, such as signs, emergency exit lights, and prominent pillars, so you know where to look. You will not have to worry about where to look, and you should be able to relax.5. “Loosen up” the muscles of the mouth and faceWhen you get nervous, the muscles around your face and mouth become stiff, which not only makes your facial expressions stiff, but also makes it difficult to speak. Practice simple training to loosen the muscles of your mouth and face for easy-to-understand speech and presentation... Open your mouth wide and scream "Ahhhhhhhhh" aloud.. Stand with your legs spread s and say "ah" 30 times in a low voice.These trainings are useful for children who are not "sick" to speak out when speaking in public. If you have a chance at a recital, please give it a try.