What you can do as a parent  for your kids to be good brothers and sisters

I want my children to be close siblings all the time. It's a wish for all parents who have two or more children. However, just wishing is not enough. It can be up to the parents to make good or bad friends with their siblings.So, as a parent, how do you deal with your children in order to foster a good brother-sister relationship? In this article, I will introduce the points that parents should be careful about and how to raise them in order to become good friends.

Things to be careful of when raising good friends

Here are three things to keep in mind about how to raise good friends. By taking care on a daily basis, the relationship between siblings will improve.Do not discriminate between brothers and sistersDo not discriminate between brothers and sisters based on their affection or time spent raising children. There can be various reasons, such as the younger child being a baby, the girl being easier, and the youngest child being the cutest, but for whatever reason the child is sensitive to discrimination. The memory of not receiving enough affection will remain in my heart even when I grow up, and it will be a source of conflict between my brothers and sisters."Because you're older brother/older sister..." is a No-NoKeep in mind that the phrase "because your an older sibling...", which is often said when the younger child is born and busy, is a forbidden phrase. The second and third children are so busy taking care of their babies that they can't take care of their older children, but the loneliness they feel is beyond mom's imagination.Divide food and toys fairlyIt is important to divide food and toys fairly between brothers and sisters. If there is a difference in food and toys because the younger child is small, the older child will not be convinced. Because I didn't choose the order in which I was born. However, you don't want to waste food. For example, if your younger child can't eat, say "Give it to your brother".

What you can do to raise good friendship between siblings

Here, let's introduce the points of how to raise to be good friends brothers and sisters.Incorporate a lot of "because you're brother and sister .." into the conversationIn order to have a good relationship with brothers and sisters, it is important to first make them aware that they are brothers and sisters. If you can feel the deep ties of "brothers and sisters" that are different from the children and friends who were destined to be born as brothers and sisters, a bond will grow.What parents can do for that is to frequently include the word "because they are brothers and sisters" in conversations. For example, if the children were in a fight, "Because they are brothers and sisters, let's get along." If you enjoyed doing the same thing together, you would say, "Because I'm a brother and sister, I feel good." When studying, children naturally begin to feel a special relationship with each other by repeatedly saying, "Because I am a brother and sister, I have to work hard together."It is important to understand each otherIt's very nice to have moms and dads and get along with the whole family. But as a parent, you want to get along well even when you have only children who have no parents, right? To do this, teach your children to “share”. This also includes “giving up”.It may be natural to teach brothers and sisters to share fruit when they serve fruit after meals, but even at this time, instead of saying "◯ pieces at a time", let the children decide. For example, when a younger child likes something, the older child can give it a little, and vice versa, it would be nice for parents to give it to the older child. Also, teach them not only to share things, but also to share each other's feelings.Communicate the goodness of eachIt is important to respect each and every one of your brothers and sisters. This is because each child will live a long life from now on. In order for a child to live independently, whether or not he / she is confident is a big factor. Tell the children what they are good at and praise them. The point at that time was to convey that the brothers and sisters were complimenting each other.By doing so, the child will not only be happy to be complimented, but will also be grateful to his brother and sister and will be satisfied with his self-esteem. I think that because there are parents who recognize themselves as individuals, they will be able to consider their siblings.How was it? I want my brothers and sisters to work hard and grow up. Raising children for brothers and sisters is often difficult, but let's keep an eye on them so that they can grow up and grow.